Compared with China, the United States more equal the love of husband and wife. From the beginning of the 60s of last century, the concept of gender equality was deeply rooted in the United States. In family life, shared obligations, equal sharing of housework is a basic consensus, there is no male chauvinism that said, his wife cooking, then the husband must wash the dishes. Many of my male colleagues, one to rush rush rush to pick a baby; in the park, led the left hold the right child care, most of all because my father; in the restaurant, they often move away to see her husband for his wife seated bench, hang off the coat.
It comes to marital relations, the United States is often a hot topic of divorce rate. According to statistics, the United States first marriage couples, nearly half to end in divorce, remarriage, the divorce rate is even higher then. High rate of divorce is an indisputable fact, but one of the reasons, there are large and equal love relationship.
Because both men and women separate, much less marriage, social pressures and economic constraints, the family is carrying more emotional interaction function, rather than material, the door first, morality or pure family line. Love and marriage because the two sides, once the love is lost, both sides should "leave."
90 years from the last century, the United States each year have continued to show the poll, 90% of Americans believe that extramarital affairs are wrong, and three-quarters of people think that such behavior should not be tolerated. In other words, Americans are very low tolerance for extra-marital affairs, not to mention the official "second wife" and "Little Three" was. With the divorce process is fairly simple, so fast and loose, rolling stone Once the behavior of light, the two sides could soon blow up.
Therefore, the divorce rate does not represent American family values weak. Instead, after a thorough observation, I found that American family values will make itself a household first Chinese to shame. Here, not only to love his wife home Gu, her husband and even more so. When family and career conflict, either because of promotion, or studying, if you want to throw his wife ions, the two separated, most men will not hesitate to preferred family. Causality is clear: the family well, work can be good; work well, the family may not be good.
In fact, the entire U.S. society respected the importance of family. Large and small U.S. elections, illustrates the problem. Almost every candidate must play the family card. A man, if not love, and it is absolutely not supported by voters. The logic behind is simple: a family who does not love, why love of the world? In addition, many systems provide enterprises also make way for the protection of the family. For example, to allow employees to combine family, most companies a very flexible working hours, work at 7 am, 3 pm work are common.
When I graduate, in his graduation ceremony, the American concept of the family once again moved me deeply. Ceremony in one of the most important is the parting words, to charge students future career.
Stage presentations are the most respected professors, when my speech was the field of information management scholars Michael Smith, said his grandfather told him: personal and professional success can not be placed on the family. He believes this is right, so careful on this occasion to convey to us, I hope we can achieve a lifelong, balanced success.
In this occasion to hear such things, I am both surprised, harboring a sobering feeling, because in China, years of education is in fact told me to sacrifice family for career.
The mainstream of modern American family values, there is a main line, that is love based on equality. A person of sound mind, should know how to respect, how to love.
Sub-Pei Tu
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